Success Mindset: Expanding your business thinking

Mindset Thoughts

written by Sarah Colgate

Business Tips for 2024 | Self Awareness

October 26, 2021

Mindset  – Change your thoughts and change your life for the better. 

Definition of mindset – In decision theory and general systems theory, a mindset is a set of assumptions, methods, or notions held by one or more people or groups of people. A mindset can also be seen as arising out of a person’s worldview or philosophy of life.

Your mindset can and will determine your entire life and how you deal with every situation or experience. . 

About 15 years ago, I didn’t know what “mindset” was, I don’t  even know if I knew what the word meant.  I remember the day I discovered it.  I was in bed on a Sunday afternoon, feeling very unhappy, unwell and down in a depressed state. 

At the time, I was about to turn 30 and my thoughts were controlling my life and destroying my soul. I was so intensely unhappy, I started creating illness in my body. The source of my unhappiness was that I believed I should have been a sensational success at age 30, instead I was nothing but a dreamer and the weight of those dreams were crushing me. I was coming up to my 30th birthday and hoped that a giant sinkhole would open up and swallow me whole. All I could do was think negatively about myself, my life, my body and  these thoughts just rolled over and over in my head. For some deep dark reason I refused to give myself a break. I just kept beating myself up over and over for not being a success. 

But there was something in me  where I was unconsciously looking for something to make a change in my life. I was at a point in my life where I had to change or I wasn’t going to survive. 

I had a husband I loved, a decent life and somewhere deep deep down I knew we deserved better, we deserved some form of happiness. Maybe my mum knew it too because she gave me a book a year or so earlier – Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your life.

I had piles of unread books, a library in fact as  I had owned a bookstore and for some reason I picked up that book that day and sat in bed reading it. I remember I got to page 9, right up front the author shares her philosophy.

The italics is her philosophy as printed in the book and then my thoughts as I was reading it. 

  • We are each responsible for all of our experiences.  “Yeah ok in general I can see that.” 
  • Every thought we think is creating our future. “Oh wow,  that’s a bit more interesting. Not sure how but ok I will keep reading.” 
  • The point of power is always in the present moment.  “I don’t know if I get that one but hopefully she explains it.” 
  • Everyone suffers from self-hatred and guilt. “Thank fuck, it’s not just me, why is the first book I have read that said this? A little sense of this is the right book for me.” 
  • The bottom line is “I’m not good enough”  “Yep this lady gets me, she knows me, she can see my soul.” 
  • It’s only a thought, and a thought can be changed. “Um what, what does that mean? What’s thought?  I read it again and maybe three or thirteen more times.”
Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your life

So when I read this book and this particular line, It’s only a thought, and a thought can be changed. It hit me, confused me, scared me and blew me away. How can this be?

The more I thought about it I thought WTF, how did I not know this already? Why the hell aren’t they teaching this in schools? How can I get to thirty years of age and nobody thought to share this insanely important piece of information?  

OH MY GOD – This is concept is profoundly life changing – f”ing ground breaking.  At that moment, after I read that line for the 28th time something changed in me. It was a tiny little shift. I felt it. Something cracked open ever so slightly.  Looking back that was the moment that created a change big enough to open my mind for more. 

Thoughts

Mindset – Opening Your Mind

We have millions of thoughts each day. Some are ours, some are our parents, some are our friends and family, some are our high school drama teachers. They come and they go, when we are happy and healthy we don’t get too tied up by most of them. We probably don’t really even pay attention to a lot of these random thoughts. 

However it’s when we aren’t feeling so happy and healthy that our thoughts are at their most destructive. 

When I was about 10, I realised my mind can get through about 1,000 thoughts in 3 minutes. I can think of one thing and within minutes I am down the biggest rabbit hole and can’t remember how I got there. My mind is very powerful and its ability is unlimited. Back then I realised that my mind had free range, it went on these massive adventures with or without me, it controlled my life and me it also determined how I felt. 

As I read more and more of the Lousie Hay book, I come to understand my feelings are just thoughts. My mind responds to something and I feel sad, depressed or lonely depending on what my mind tells me. And the earth shattering part of this learning was that – I can change my thoughts. I can actively and consciously change my thoughts. So does this mean  I don’t need to feel sad, depressed or lonely. I can actually choose my thoughts and my feelings?????

I guess so. That afternoon I didn’t move from my bed until I read the entire book and made copious notes of the realisations or aha moments as Oprah calls them. These are the top 3;

  1. I don’t need to feel this way. I can actively put good thoughts into my brain, I can actively ignore or change thoughts that cause pain and suffering. I can now start removing the heavy feeling I have been carrying around for years. 
  2. I can retrain my brain – I can change my mindset and in grain a positive, healthy and happy mindset. 
  3. What I put out to the world I get back. When I focus on loss I get loss. When I focus on love I get love. 

I learned the most important lesson of my life that day around mindset and choosing my thoughts. This lesson saved my life. I learnt that my thoughts are just that ! They are only thoughts, they have no power over me and they don’t control me. 

Now don’t get too excited, my life didn’t miraculously change on that day. I spent the following days, weeks, months and years retraining my brain to think better thoughts, my mouth to speak better words and my heart to believe what I was thinking and saying. 

I now think positive, healthy, happy and helpful thoughts. I continue to train my brain. Some days we sleep in and don’t train. But after a few days I realised that for my own mental health, self belief, confidence and happiness I need to keep training my brain everyday. Just like exercise I will have to do it for the rest of my life. 

My training regime is pretty straight forward, but the trick is when things are going great keep it up. Look for new affirmations to train your brain on.

So 15 years later I still say my  affirmations everyday in my head, in the car, in the mirror and while I am going off to sleep. I have a display folder filled with affirmations and positive inspiration quotes. I have positive words surrounding me on walls, mirrors, on my desk, computer and phone. 

My mindset is positive because I work hard to ensure it serves me in the best possible way. When I have down days, I sit down in my bed, open that Louise Hay – How to heal your life  book and read a few pages, I get out my book of affirmations and read through it. I block everything else out and focus on removing the negative thoughts that don’t serve me and replace them with great thoughts.  

Mindset Training

Give it a try today, then try again the next day and the next and soon enough your mind will give you the thoughts you need to live an amazing life filled with positive experiences. 

My key takeaway here is;

  • Your mindset will determine how you live each day, how you feel about yourself, how you love and how you lose.
  • Be aware of your mindset. Are you open to improvements or new opportunities?
  • If you mindset needs work, if you have a negative or pessimistic mindset start working on changing it. 
  • To change your mindset, start with baby steps. Write down your thoughts in a journal then write next to them what is a better though or more positive thought to think. Do this each day for 3 weeks. You will notice the difference in your mindset.

Mindset is the single most important lesson you can learn and will benefit you for your entire life. 

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